Using emotional insight
for personal development and professional success

Funnily enough, people are different – a little bit of broken, a little bit wise

I'm going to be presenting a series of posts and ideas to help encourage personal growth and change. These are all tried approaches I've used with a range of people in both professional and personal settings.

But the problem with a blog post is that it goes to everyone. The great thing about individual conversation and coaching is that you can fit the technique and insight to the specific person you are dealing with. And I think it is quite well established that people are different. They think differently, feel differently, have different values, different scripts, different techniques, and different emotional environments. In fact, I believe that the inner life of the people around us is much, much more richly varied than most of us ever realise (one of my favourite questions to ask someone is "What is your experience of your own mind like?" – try it, you'll be startled by how strange things seem in the minds of other people).

The upshot of this is – what may be an extremely useful and helpful insight to one person may be the most stupidly bloody obvious pointless waste of space to another. This is something I've run into many times over the years of observing minds and emotions – I'll wrestle a new piece of wisdom from the depths of understanding, and present it proudly to a friend only to hear the equivalent of "Well yeah – duh!"

Fortunately, this same idea so casually dismissed by one may be very helpful to another. This is the nature of self development – we have wonderful richness of wisdom within us, but also areas of restriction, confusion and painful frustration. The same person who can walk a room and make friends with everyone in it, might fall apart at the idea of giving a speech to the same room. A person with brilliant organisational skills may endlessly procrastinate about tasks concerning self education. An individual in a rich and fulfilling relationship may still find that a simple conversation about housework brings up intense and confusing emotions. Ideas that play to the part of the world we just 'get' may seem facile, whilst seemingly simple ideas in areas which cause us to struggle may be revelatory.

This is all good news – there are many things we don't need to learn, but things that can help hugely for the areas in which we are stuck.

All of which is a long way of saying… I hope you find the content on this blog and site useful. But if I appear to be stating the bloody obvious, or describing a problem you just can't imagine anyone struggling with, just be patient and move on to something else. After congratulating yourself on having wisdom and insight in one of the really important parts of life.

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